Once upon a time there was a man who wasn’t satisfied with the life he had and decided the root to happiness was to become a business owner, be his own boss and make lots of money.
He set up his own business from humble beginnings and over many years worked day and night to build the business into a successful, high growth company.
He got married and had children and had all the trappings of success, the big house, the flash cars and all the material things a man could want. He had acquired wealth and comfort through his hard earned efforts. But this still wasn’t enough. He still wasn’t satisfied.
He loved his business, it’s what motivated him. Building the business and growing the business had been exciting, but once he had achieved that he didn’t know what was next. He couldn’t let go, it was his business and he loved the control and power that gave him. He still devoted all his time to it and never really trusted anyone else to help him at the helm.
He then sought satisfaction in spending his money in other ways but these short term fixes never gave him sustained happiness. He felt the only way to measure his success was in terms of wealth and the material things in his life.
This businessman was so focussed on his work that he had little time for friends and family and his kids had grown up without seeing much of their Dad. But he didn’t understand that the wealth was not what his wife or children craved, but it was time -for him to make time, and put them first instead of his business.
Although he didn’t spend much time with his children, he had high hopes for them and expected them to be like him – an entrepreneur, a success in business. What he didn’t realise was he had bred children that lacked that interest and didn’t want to follow in his shoes. His children felt cornered into believing they had to enter the ‘family business’.
His wife divorced him as he was too controlling of their life and their money and she felt like part of the business deal. His children entered the business but didn’t excel and he sold out to a third party under the nose of his children – leaving a family rift for the rest of his life.
He did finally retire at the age of 70 but died within 6 months, unable to enjoy the fruits of his lifetime of work. His estate was left to his 2nd wife (25 years his junior). At the funeral, many talked about the successful man, his wealth and his life, but most did not envy him…
As extreme as this seems, this type of scenario can be true. Running a business can be tough and lonely. So don’t let your life become like this, run your business but don’t let it run you. Plan, create some balance in your life and get help with your business wherever possible!